{"id":49608,"date":"2023-01-03T15:22:07","date_gmt":"2023-01-03T20:22:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.cruisingworld.com\/?p=49608"},"modified":"2023-08-25T11:49:08","modified_gmt":"2023-08-25T15:49:08","slug":"have-kids-went-sailing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cruisingworld.com\/people\/have-kids-went-sailing\/","title":{"rendered":"Have Kids Went Sailing"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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\n Ezra Blake Fischer pops out of Delilah\u2019s hatch alongside friend and first-time sailor Jack Butcher on an evening sail off Marina Del Rey, California. <\/span>\n Courtesy Brandon Butcher<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t\t <\/figcaption>\n <\/section>\n\t\t\n\n\n

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The idea was perfectly realistic: I\u2019ll get a little pocket cruiser, we\u2019ll take the kids sailing<\/a>, they\u2019ll be angels, and life will be perfect. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I imagined sunset cruises, my wife and I canoodling in the cockpit, both of us giggling and drinking spritzers while the boat sailed itself and the kids never spoke. And if they did, they\u2019d speak in nautical (read: British) accents. Look what I\u2019ve spotted in the sextant! I\u2019m just chuffed to bits you\u2019ve taken us sailing, Mum and Dad.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019ve had a sailboat for a year now, and I still haven\u2019t heard that. My wife and I haven\u2019t had a single sail that felt like a date. And there isn\u2019t a kid aboard who speaks at a volume lower than 80 decibels. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yeah, I know, a guy on a tiny yacht shouldn\u2019t be whining. In a few short years, the kids will be grown, no one will be yelling, and nothing on the boat will be sticky. Until then, though, what\u2019s a 21st-century parent on a 25-foot sailboat to do? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perhaps not surprisingly, options do abound. What follows are tips gathered around the world from parents who are cruising, daysailing or simply making way on sailboats with kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fabio Fischer, Scorpio 26 Farrapo<\/em>, Rio Grande do Sul, Brazil<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We sail in southern Brazil and the southern Atlantic ocean. On board, we have a 4-year-old son who first started sailing at age 3. To help him enjoy the experience, we make an effort to make sailing social. We often bring friends and other children aboard. And it works: Our son seems happy when he can teach other kids about sailing. We also call him captain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nele and Milan Djuric, Oyster 55 Snooty Fox<\/em>, Flensburg, Germany<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

As a family of four en route to the Mediterranean Sea, we think it\u2019s important to make it apparent that sailing and living aboard is something that makes us (the parents) happy. We want the kids to see that we\u2019re in a good mood as soon as we\u2019re on the boat. It\u2019s also important for our children to have a chance to play. So we bring along a few of their favorite toys. For example, we have a blanket filled with Lego bricks that we can easily open (and put away quickly) in the salon, cockpit or aft deck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maxime Dawson, Lagoon 440 Casablanca<\/em>, Western Australia<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Kids need activity and attention. On board Casablanca<\/em>, we bring board games and schoolwork. We even give the kids cooking tasks to keep them busy. It\u2019s not easy. Inevitably, the kids get bored. But sailing teaches them to slow down; it helps them understand that boredom is a part of life. Sailing is also a great learning experience. As we travel, we stop regularly to visit beaches and new places. Geocaching is a fun activity during these stops. The kids love it. They think that living on a boat is so much more fun than their former life because we\u2019re always going somewhere new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kristianne Koch Riddle, Kelly Peterson 46 Indra<\/em>, Long Beach, California <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019ve raised our kids sailing since birth. Even though we haven\u2019t taken off to cruise the world and still live in a house, we\u2019ve made sailing our lifestyle. We\u2019ve always encouraged both kids to explore the many ways they can be a part of sailing and on-the-water life. Over the years, we\u2019ve read sailing stories, learned together about the creatures and natural world we share our lives with, and talked about the historical relevance of all the places we sail to. Today, at ages 13 and 16, the kids sail, surf, snorkel and swim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Johannes Erdmann, Delphia 33 Maverick<\/em>, Germany <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

My wife and I have been living full time aboard boats for many years. We\u2019ve done several ocean crossings. But, after moving ashore and becoming parents, this is our first season with kids aboard, and we\u2019ve been learning a lot. While the kids seem to love life on the water (which makes us happy), they also need some off time every day. So we go ashore and explore playgrounds and beaches. In difficult situations, and during \u00admaneuvers, we have also occasionally been \u201cbad parents\u201d who rely on the hypnotizing effect of Paw Patrol<\/em>. Our oldest son, age 2, is such a big fan of the series that he will not leave the iPad while we are docking the boat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jessica and Jeroen, Harmony 47 Sans Souci<\/em>, Menorca, Spain<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We have some simple advice that works for us: Always be one step ahead of the kids. The moment they get bored is the moment they get mischievous. So, keep them entertained. We let the kids help us with small jobs or chores. Our boys are 4 and 3, so they can\u2019t do too much, but they are keen to help with whatever new things we throw at them: drawing, reading, board games, arts and crafts. Our last resort is putting on a movie for the kids, which, funny enough, also helps with seasickness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\n Feeling proud after a successful \u00adsunset cruise with friends, author David Blake Fischer and son Ezra pause for a quick father-and-son photo opp.<\/span>\n Courtesy Brandon Butcher<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t\t <\/figcaption>\n <\/section>\n\t\t\n\n\n

Ben Doerr, Pearson Countess 44 True<\/em>, Bainbridge Island, Washington<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We are a liveaboard family with a \u00adsailboat charter business. When we\u2019re not chartering, we gunkhole and explore local waters. My advice is this: When it comes to engaging the kids with the actual art and tasks of sailing, don\u2019t teach them. Don\u2019t set a time and force it on them. If you enjoy it, they\u2019ll see it, and they\u2019ll ask questions when they\u2019re ready to learn specifics. Always offer them the opportunity to engage, but let them come at their own pace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seth and Elizabeth Hynes,<\/strong> Outremer 51 Archer<\/em>, San Francisco<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019ve found that it\u2019s important to get kids excited for each adventure. Before departure, we let them pick out toys. We have new stuffed animals on board when they arrive. And we talk endlessly about all the new and cool things they\u2019re going to do on the boat. For long passages, we bring along audio stories (like the Hardy Boys<\/em> books) to keep those who are prone to seasickness entertained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Juliana Kolling, Hunter 375, Santa Maria<\/em>, Rio de Janeiro, Brazil <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t have a TV or electronics on the boat to entertain the kids. Instead, the adults take turns playing with them. For a few hours each day, we go ashore to play on the beach, swim, paddle or ride bikes. Inside the boat, we keep the kids busy and have them help us make food and wash clothes. They also like to draw, read books and play with our dog. It\u2019s not easy, but we\u2019ve all become quite used to the simplicity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tina Vranken, Lagoon 46 Nohma<\/em>, Ostend, Belgium<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

For us, sailing is about spending quality time together as a family. When the kids are bored or unhappy, we talk, rest, eat snacks and play word games. We also find it helpful to have some strict rules. For example, the kids understand that they have to be quiet during stressful situations. This also keeps us from losing our tempers, which would cause even more stress. In the end, it\u2019s important to respect one another\u2019s feelings, especially when someone is feeling sad, unhappy or homesick. Having a talk, offering a hug, and a lot of love mostly do the trick. Still, there are moments that kids are bored or the parents are annoyed. Just remember that this is normal, and it will pass.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emily Blake Fischer, Cape Dory 25 Delilah<\/em>, Marina Del Rey, California<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

With two kids, ages 3 and 7, on a sailboat, there are often situations that create upset: waves, wind, no wind, heeling, heat, seasickness. As a parent, my goal is to regulate myself first and the kids second. When tantrums happen, I do my best to breathe, maintain my composure, and stay calm. I know I can\u2019t control a toddler\u2019s emotions, but I can control my own. When I\u2019m internally calm, I can respond to the kids with empathy, remind them that they are safe, tell them that they can handle whatever is happening, and slowly teach them to be aware of their emotions. Then again, there\u2019s always a glass of wine.

David Blake Fischer lives in Pasadena, California. Catch his latest new sailing \u00adadventures (and mishaps) in his hilarious web column \u201cThe Noob Files\u201d at \u00adcruisingworld\u200b.com\/thenoobfiles<\/a>, and follow him on Instagram @sailingdelilah<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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